Couples counselling

Strengthening relationships through understanding Relationships aren't always easy. Even couples who love each other can get stuck in the same arguments, struggle to communicate, feel disconnected or find themselves wondering how things got to this point. Sometimes there has been one big event that has changed the relationship. Sometimes it's lots of little things that have built up over time. And sometimes you simply know that something isn't working anymore, but you don't know how to change it. I don't see couples counselling as choosing sides or deciding who is right. It is finding a way for you to work through the problem together. You're both coming into the room with your own experiences, feelings and perspective. My role is to help create a space where both people can be heard, where you can start to understand what's happening between you and where we can look at what you both want from the relationship. Couples come to counselling for lots of different reasons You might be experiencing: Communication difficulties Finding yourselves having the same conversations — or arguments — without actually getting anywhere. Frequent arguments or ongoing conflict When small things turn into big things, resentment has started building or you feel like you're constantly walking into the next disagreement. Feeling emotionally disconnected When you still care about each other but don't feel as close, understood or connected as you once did. Trust and relationship difficulties Working through changes in trust, hurt, boundaries or experiences that have affected the relationship. Stress affecting your relationship When work, money, parenting, caring responsibilities or everyday life start putting pressure on the relationship. Family and parenting pressures Trying to navigate different expectations, responsibilities and the impact that family life can have on your relationship. Life transitions and major changes Moving in together, getting married, becoming parents, children leaving home, separation, illness, bereavement or other major changes. Intimacy and emotional connection Finding your way back to feeling close, understood and connected. You don't have to wait until your relationship is in crisis before seeking support. Sometimes couples come because they want to understand each other better before things become harder to untangle. My approach I believe every couple has their own story. There isn't one formula for a “healthy relationship”, and I'm not here to tell you what your relationship should look like. Instead, we'll explore the patterns that have developed between you, how you each experience the relationship and what you both want to change. That might mean looking at communication, expectations, boundaries, conflict, past experiences or the things that you find difficult to say to each other. The aim isn't to decide who is right. It's to understand what's happening between you and work out what happens next. What to expect Couples sessions take place online via Microsoft Teams and last 60 minutes. Sessions are available across the UK. We'll start by talking about what's brought you to counselling and what you'd like to get from it. You don't need to arrive with a perfectly rehearsed explanation of what's wrong. You can simply tell me what's been happening, and we'll take it from there. A space for both of you Couples counselling can feel daunting, particularly if you're worried about being blamed, misunderstood or feeling like you have to take sides. That's not what I'm here for. Both people get to have a voice. Both perspectives matter. And sometimes, simply having somewhere structured to talk can change the conversation. Couples counselling: £90 per 60-minute session Before deciding whether couples counselling is right for you, you can book a free 15-minute consultation. It's an opportunity to have a conversation, ask questions and see whether we'd be a good fit. No pressure. No obligation.